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TODAY I ATTENDED YOUR JOYOLOGIST, TRICIA HUFFMAN’S LIVE WEBINAR. CHECK OUT HER SITE!
Communication makes relationships. Every connection you have with another person is a relationship and RELATIONSHIP = to relate to another… to be in the same place as someone (physically, emotionally, mentally?)
Who are you BEING with all people (yourself included)? to be or not to be…
your being = thoughts, actions, attitudes, words, clothing, choices, beliefs … often without speaking
I am a teacher at all times.
“We are all human.” – Tricia Huffman
“clean it up as it comes up.” – Tricia Huffman (this is similar to “making shit up” and the interpersonal mush described in clear leadership)
Questions to ask others:
- What are you present to? Where are you at right now?
- Is there anything you want to clear up with me?
FIND YOUR OWN VOICE. With everything I learn I find great value in puiting it in my own words. Thought: I think bad words are like sarcasm. I think they mask insecurities and have a negative pull… how does duality relate to this? Maybe some cussing is required for some clean talks.. hmm.
Plans and ideas are allowed to change! I am not trapped in anything!
“listen through love.” – Tricia Huffman
Expectations set us up for failure.
People fall asleep to acknowledging others. Show people how much you love them! Acknowledge people! Thank them!
Fully listen! Repeat back to people what they have said.
Dear Jenni: Stop trying to “fix” people and give them advice. They know the answer. TRUST them and acknowledge them for being the intelligent people they are. It is not my job to fix other people. I will have compassion, but I will not be responsible for them. I can’t change others behaviors but I can change my own reactions… “cant change the wind but you can adjust the sails ” …why would you want to make someone you love “wrong”?
“everything is either a request for love, or an expression of love.” – Tricia Huffman
I wonder how different cultures love full out? When I first started actively participating in positivity I was all HUGS and HIGH FIVES. It was a very physical thing for me. This is a very North American image of how to “love full out” and I am curious about other cultures and how others experience this.
What is your view on using “love” to end e-mails and in conversations with acquaintances? I really want to bring love into all of my actions but I am afraid people will think I am unprofessional. People are always going to judge you. Don’t let that stop you. Dive into fear.
How do gossip and venting fit into being love? It’s okay to vent sometimes, but always go back to the source and communicate with the person directly afterward. If other gossip to you, tell them you aren’t comfortable engaging in that energy. Why are you wasting your energy on that? If you really want to change this you need to talk to that person about it.
Many things you said reminded me of a book/course I recently experienced called “clear leadership”. coincidence, or are you familiar with it? “I” language.
EXPERIMENT: Venting to myself.
I am a very extroverted and oral communicator so I wanted to try
Before: I felt curious and apprehensive about trying this and I felt a little scared that my Mom would hear me haha.
During: I communicated my experience to myself and was able to understand my experience better.
After: I am missing feedback and I wish I had done this with a video camera.
Soooo I tried that but the sound didn’t work and I have decided that is wasn’t meant to be, but I will experiment further the next time I want to vent : )