Speaking and Life Goals… inspired via the SFU Leadership Summit

Keynote, Dreamforce 2011, San Francisco
For Keynote Speaking…

Notes to self:

  • THIS IS NOT THE TRUTH. I am only sharing my perspective and giving people an opportunity to take what they like and leave the rest.
  • Do a Mic Check – and listen to the audience. (maybe even have point people, so that I can hear them if there is speaking or interacting)
  • Encourage live tweeting! Have a hashtag!
  • Improv style! Audience participation.
  • I want to elicit responses that matter! Why am I asking this? What am I looking for (and if I am looking for something then I probably shouldn’t be asking). Why ask the rhetorical question?
  • Drop the details.
  • CLEAR Communication.
  • Know facts, don’t talk about stuff you don’t know.
  • Sometimes there is an awkwardness with audience participation. I want to create an environment which avoids shame/embarrassment and creates a level of comfort.

For Workshops…

Notes to self:

  • Humility: is the quality of being modest and respectful.
  • This is your session. Think of this room as Vegas.

Things I want to learn about:

History of Leadership – ie: Gandhi

I REALIZED…

I want to create a world without hunger and malnutrition…but what DO I want… hmm…

I want to create a nourished world. In every sense of the world.

I like working with: kids, film, design, social change, dancing, leadership

So that’s me at the moment.

WHAT DO YOU BELIEVE IN?

Are you? Or do I think you are?

light trails

Earlier this year in a meeting with one of my mentors at SFU I realized that one way I can communicate (and love) others better is by explaining myself – and by that I mean this. I can be a very inquisitive creature. Some call it “questioning”.. it’s even at the centre of my manifesto (question everything). Often I am just curious, but sometimes my ego gets in the way and I am trying to make a point. Usually in these cases I am not understanding and fully listening to the person talking… but sometimes people might assume that is what I am doing even when my intentions are purely focused on learning and understanding. Either way, the point is, by prefacing my intentions with context (why am I asking this) I can be clearer for my others, and when my ego gets in the way – myself.

Recently I learned that there is another way I can better love and communicate with others:

I was talking with this girl who was mentioning how she was not very good with words and was not very articulate. I immediately was surprised and told her that was was, in fact, quite articulate. Someone jokingly said that of course I know her better than she knows herself. I was so surprised, I never realized that my act of faith and goodwill might be misinterpreted and offending like that. I didn’t mean that I knew her better than she knew herself. Though perhaps I was discovering her more than she was discovering herself (opening up  to limitless possibilities). I quickly rephrased my comment and acknowledgement to state that I THOUGHT she was very articulate. I wonder which has more power:

  • I think you are _____ OR
  • You are _______

I think the first option leaves less room for the mis-interpretation I described, however the second is more affirming – it creates someone to be something. It is definitive.

Now I am remembering my experience at the PostSecret LIVE event last year. I was given a book by Frank Warren that said “the world needs your voice” inside. It has become quite my self-fulfilling prophecy. What if it had said “i think the world needs your voice”. I wonder what the difference would be.

In contrast sometimes I myself put myself down – mostly by accident or unintentionally when speaking. I wish others would call me on this and acknowledge me. I think often myself and other do it unintentionally – but it does make a difference. Or… i think it makes a difference : P

YOU ARE INFINITE. I THINK YOU ARE INFINITE : )

PS: some background on this practice of acknowledgement can be found:

Positivism: How Love, Happiness and Compassion Change the World

This past weekend I hosted a workshop at the Canadian Conference on Student Leadership in Calgary, Alberta. The workshop was called “Positivism: How Love, Happiness and Compassion Change the World” and the description in the program was as follows:

How did one girl go from being suicidal and depressed to traveling the world for free, meeting celebrities and living a life of unconditional love? From Vancouver to Hawaii to California, presenter Jenni Rempel has been connected with big names like Maroon 5 and Jason Mraz. By making choices about how we act and think, we have the power to change the world we live in. This workshop will looking at empowering videos, personal stories and other examples of a loving world. We will also try out techniques for communicating with, loving, and inspiring others (and ourselves).

“What is going to save the human race? Please. Thank you. Why? Because if we all started treating the people and things that we interact with every day with respect and compassion, the effects would ripple through every aspect of our lives, transforming society.” – SuperForest.org

Click here to view the Positivitism Slides! Below are the videos we watched during the workshop…

We ended by reenacting a quick version of this meditation:

If I would have had time I would have played this as well because it is beautiful:

Links!

A few things I could have done better: prefacing the Laughter Yoga exercises with the “fake it till you make it” explanation for health benefits; stating WHY I have certain opinions, being extra careful to state that everything is only MY opinion, define terms (ie: acknowledgement, unconditional love) in slides, acknowledge doubt.

The reviews were very positive… all parts of the workshop came up in feedback as valuable so I’m not sure if i’ll change the program of the workshop at all.

I feel inspired to make changes in the way I live my life.

I appreciate those around me.

Everything in life is an opportunity!

I want to call/e-mail my family and friends and change the way I think of my “enemies”

Awespirational!

It made me feel great!

I feel the need to find unconditional love for people i’ve shunned in my life.

There is always something positive in every situation.

I feel inspired, which is impressive.

This was the best session at the conference!

Positivistsm is awesome and can change the world.

I feel grateful and reaffirmed in my own positivity.

I feel great and worthy.

So much positive energy was going around the room, you were a great speaker!

I feel happy i’m happy!

I feel like smiling a big, huge smile!

I feel like a million bucks.

We have the ability to instantaneously love a stranger next to us. We all just want to be loved.

Reaffirmed my faith in humanity.

Giving space is powerful.

I feel touched.

I spend more time with the glass half empty, I need to change it to half full.

I feel happier, like I could change my life through love.

I want to spread kindness to people.

The lessons you taught and your attitude make me want to do what you do!

I learned how to appreciate the moments of life more.

You have an incredible perspective on life that is contagious, thank you.

I feel really inspired to live my life to the fullest and change my outlook.

I can affect change.

This session reminded me what it means to be human and the essence of humankind… How far off track we have gone and how important it is to get back on track.

I feel that there is hope for everyone and the potential for them to be good.

I feel inspired to banish negativity from my life and make it more positive. I feel uplifted to make change and share what i’ve learned with others.

I kind of realized that I am not always as kind as I could be and I don’t always appreciate what I have and i’d like to change that.

I feel really calm and beloved and excited that there are people like you in our generation.

The average score was 9.3 out of 10. (I think in the future I will add a “what would make you rate this session 10/10” part to my evaluation).

I am a Leader Causing Leaders [Part 4]

 

I learned some very interesting things about currency at Leaders Causing Leaders.

Of course there is the classic “Pay in Forward” concept but there are some other ideas emerging too.

Ideas like a depreciating currency, a yin & yang economy, time banks and bit coin were all new to me.

I also was told: If your product has value you should charge for it. And to find people whose strengths are my weaknesses.

I also got to enjoy a lovely concert from one of my favorite groups Avasa & Matty Love. There was even a cool former Disney artist doing live sketchings… it was a really artistic party!

On the way home I had some lovely conversations in the airport, however the plan was not full so I sat alone on the ride back. I edited photos and pondered my trip. While flying it occurred to me that when it is dark I could be 1 000 000 miles off the ground and never know how high I really am.

I also wrote this poem on the way back:

When you tell me things

I see them more clearly

than the things

in front of my face

I’ll ride my bicycle

across the stars

and dance with the the wor(l)ds

I embrace.

I AM (an ENFP Poem)

6. Intuition
I AM A…

Methodical, Questioning ENFP.

An Initiating, Expressive, Gregarious, Active, Enthusiastic Extrovert.

An Abstract, Imaginative, Conceptual, Theoretical and Original Intuitor.

A Logical-Empathetic, Compassionate, Questioning, Accepting, Tough-Tender Feeler.

A Casual, Open-Ended, Early-Starting-Pressure-Prompted, Spontaneous, Methodical Perciever.

…and a Jenni : )

Written by Jenni Rempel,

via Myers-Briggs Assessment.

Talks on Education

This past month I presented at ICE: The Inter-University Conference on Education. Some of the talks from this event have now been posted online.

This was the only talk I was present for but I really enjoyed it.

I strive to create conditions in which you might learn.

Wise words from a wise prof.

More talks can be found here: http://www.cisa-acei.ca/ice/?p=ice2011

I am a Leader Causing Leaders [Part 3]

This post is likely to appear as a vomit of inspiration. How do you sum up a jam packed weekend in a cohesive manner?

Here are some quotes and ideas and thing I picked up at LEADERS CAUSING LEADERS 2011

 

There was this one super inspiring (mostly raw) vegan speaker, Raven Starr (she recommended this free numerology report that changed her life) really made me excited and proud to be vegan.

Another speaker I really loved was Guru Singh. He had some good quotes…

“You are weird!” – GURU SINGH

He led us through many breathing exercises.

“The idea that beauty is something other than you is absurd.” – GURU SINGH

He also talked about words a lot:

Human = Hue + Man (meaning the brain-mind connection)

Woman = Womb (meaning the future) + Man (meaning the brain-mind connection)

Another interesting thins was the 4 Steps to Compassionate Communication: Observations, Feelings, Needs and Requests which I found very similar to Clear Leadership’s Observations, Thoughts, Feelings and Wants.

I noticed many similarities between different presenters and previous leadership workshops I have done. I think all leadership presentations come down to these 3 things:

  1. Communication: How to share and connect with others
  2. Ownership: Some concept of taking responsibility for one’s own actions and experience
  3. Tools: Apologizing, Acknowledgment, Praise, Rewards… ideas of motivating and inspiring others

My F-SCORE Results: Jenni = Passion + Rebellion – Power

Passion

Your primary fascination is PASSION. (Nicely done, you.) Even without realizing it, you’re already instinctively applying this trigger when trying to persuade others. Your secondary trigger is REBELLION, and your dormant trigger (the one you’re least likely to apply in your personality and behavior) is POWER.

– SALLY HOGSHEAD, What’s Your Fascination Score?

The assessment is pretty fast and free. What are you?

I am a Leader Causing Leaders [Part 2]

An exercise from the Leaders Causing Leaders Program:

CHOOSE A DISTINCTION:

Transparency, Humility, Integrity, Kindness, Dynamic Vision, Community Building, Responsibility, Courage

 

The 3 personas that best describe me are…

Visionary: I am a creative thinker

Energizer: I motivate others

Explorer: I move easily between worlds

The 3 personal obstacles I am learn to overcome are…

Micro Manger/Control Freak

Demanding

Stress

The 3 main personal strengths I bring to the table are…

Integrity: I am what I appear

Kindness: I care about others

Articulate: I can express myself